Thursday, April 4, 2013

Why Should Girls Have All the Fun? Let's Put Engagement Rings On Our Men. MAN-GAGEMENT RINGS!

Keith isn't the only one who put a ring on it! Look at Keith's badass new, practical, useful engagement ring/gadget:

But I'm getting ahead of myself: It all started with the Spice Girls. No, really. My Anglophilia began with a high school David Bowie obsession that quickly grew to include Brit rock in general, and then British writers and slang, and finally even stupid British pop culture. I bought British teen mags by the armful because I loved the biting gossip. One of those gossip columns claimed that David Beckham proposed to Posh Spice, and then she turned the tables by pulling out a custom-made men's ring and saying, "Girl power! Will you marry me?" I was in awe of this maneuver. I swore that someday I'd pull a similar move.

Fast forward to 2009. Keith told me soon after we started dating that he wanted to wear an engagement ring someday. I thought Oh my God, he really IS perfect for me! With visions of Posh and Becks dancing in my head, I held in my glee and teased him about being a shopaholic. He said, "No, I want to wear a ring because I don't think it's fair for women to wear a symbol of their commitment while the men walk around looking single until the wedding day. I want to show everyone my commitment, too." My heart melted.

Fast forward to 2013. When it came time to think about rings, Keith wasn't much help in choosing one for himself. I didn't want to give him one that looked like a wedding band, since he'd get one of those later. He identified a lot of things he didn't like, but nothing he did like. His favorite thing at A.J. Martin was this Etruscan revival bracelet. I told him I wouldn't mind giving him a nontraditional token of engagement, but there was no way I could afford this. Also, can you imagine him wearing this to the office every day? *grin*

Sure, honey! A woman's bracelet can totally be your manly engagement ring! Except I don't have $4,800.
I wanted to give him something special and uncommon, just like him, so I turned to etsy. I found plain men's bands adorned with meteorite and dinosaur bone (AWESOME!), but they looked like wedding bands. I found signet rings, which Keith doesn't like, and genuine ancient Viking rings which are SO FREAKIN' COOL but weren't made in Keith's size. People were smaller back then! I was getting frustrated, and then I finally found Bruce Boone's shop.

As soon as I saw the utility ring, I knew it was right: It's a gadget and a conversation piece. It's useful and practical. It was made with lasers! And it's unusual enough that he doesn't know anyone else who has one. It's pretty much everything he loves. It's certainly nontraditional, and since there really aren't any traditions in place for men's engagement rings, who cares? I gave it to him on Tuesday, and he loves it.

There's something satisfying about looking at his hand and seeing it there. I think to myself, I did that. I put that ring there. Go me! Now I see why Keith keeps looking at my hand so proudly. It's fun to put a ring on it! I'm so curious to know... Has anyone else traded engagement rings with a man? Did he expect it? And if not, what did he think of it?

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  1. my friend B wears a men's engagement. His fiancee bought it for him after he gave her her bling. His, I believe, is from Etsy and its made of wood...it's pretty awesome actually and not at all feminine. I think he explained that it was made of one solid piece of wood and was not unbroken. SO SYMBOLIC! I love the idea of exchanging bands. Why should girls have all the fun!??

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    1. Aww, I love the symbolism! We talked about similar symbolism relating to a meteorite ring: Sealing one's commitment with a 3.6 billion year old material symbolizes that we'll be together (practically) forever.

      Yeah, I figure that since we like them, we should let them have some of the fun. :D

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  2. I love the idea of a mutual "you are mine"-ness.

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  3. Not exactly the same situation. I had given Bigbad a ring while we were dating, but when we were planning our wedding I cried that I couldn't afford to get him a ring and he couldn't afford to get me a wedding ring. He solved that problem by saying he would wear the ring I had given him earlier and I could wear my engagement ring. We had no ring exchange in our ceremony (since we were already wearing them at that point).

    I like the equality of a men's engagement ring for sure. Keith's is way cool.

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    1. Aww! That makes a lot of sense. Wow, you got him a ring while you were still just dating? That's a bold move. I like it!

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  4. I love this! My heart would have totally melted too... My boyfriend and I have shopped a lot for engagement rings (which clearly gets me excited every time) but I never thought of getting one for him!
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    1. Oh, you should! Every time Keith goes somewhere without me, he comes home and tells me about how everyone admired his ring. It's nuts! Who knew guys would like that so much? :)

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  5. this makes me think of the episode of boy meets world where cori MAKES topanga get him a ring! haha, i feel like it was a ladylike diamond band.
    i LOVE the ring you got him! my husband would have loved that when we got married.

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    1. Wow, that explains a LOT about Keith's desire to have a ring. He was a Huge Boy Meets World Fan! :D

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  6. Value is important to everyone these days, including the well-to-do. Even the most frugal engagement ring shopper will appreciate the value of the mens engagement rings. which is currently priced on average of up to 30 percent less than traditional round diamonds.

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