Keith isn't the only one who put a ring on it! Look at Keith's badass new, practical, useful engagement ring/gadget:
But I'm getting ahead of myself: It all started with the Spice Girls. No, really. My Anglophilia began with a high school David Bowie obsession that quickly grew to include Brit rock in general, and then British writers and slang, and finally even stupid British pop culture. I bought British teen mags by the armful because I loved the biting gossip. One of those gossip columns claimed that David Beckham proposed to Posh Spice, and then she turned the tables by pulling out a custom-made men's ring and saying, "Girl power! Will you marry me?" I was in awe of this maneuver. I swore that someday I'd pull a similar move.
Fast forward to 2009. Keith told me soon after we started dating that he wanted to wear an engagement ring someday. I thought Oh my God, he really IS perfect for me! With visions of Posh and Becks dancing in my head, I held in my glee and teased him about being a shopaholic. He said, "No, I want to wear a ring because I don't think it's fair for women to wear a symbol of their commitment while the men walk around looking single until the wedding day. I want to show everyone my commitment, too." My heart melted.
Fast forward to 2013. When it came time to think about rings, Keith wasn't much help in choosing one for himself. I didn't want to give him one that looked like a wedding band, since he'd get one of those later. He identified a lot of things he didn't like, but nothing he did like. His favorite thing at A.J. Martin was this Etruscan revival bracelet. I told him I wouldn't mind giving him a nontraditional token of engagement, but there was no way I could afford this. Also, can you imagine him wearing this to the office every day? *grin*
|Sure, honey! A woman's bracelet can totally be your manly engagement ring! Except I don't have $4,800.|
I wanted to give him something special and uncommon, just like him, so I turned to etsy. I found plain men's bands adorned with meteorite and dinosaur bone (AWESOME!), but they looked like wedding bands. I found signet rings, which Keith doesn't like, and genuine ancient Viking rings which are SO FREAKIN' COOL but weren't made in Keith's size. People were smaller back then! I was getting frustrated, and then I finally found Bruce Boone's shop.
As soon as I saw the utility ring, I knew it was right: It's a gadget and a conversation piece. It's useful and practical. It was made with lasers! And it's unusual enough that he doesn't know anyone else who has one. It's pretty much everything he loves. It's certainly nontraditional, and since there really aren't any traditions in place for men's engagement rings, who cares? I gave it to him on Tuesday, and he loves it.
There's something satisfying about looking at his hand and seeing it there. I think to myself, I did that. I put that ring there. Go me! Now I see why Keith keeps looking at my hand so proudly. It's fun to put a ring on it! I'm so curious to know... Has anyone else traded engagement rings with a man? Did he expect it? And if not, what did he think of it?